Past Vs Present

Our past often times tend to creep into the present and take a seat. There are experiences and events that occurred that affected us deeply and we carry it with us, never laying it down. We unintentionally or sometimes intentionally, when we want to hang on to it, let it affect our daily lives and our relationships. It's like living in a haunted house with an unwelcome presence that affects our daily routine, our sleep and our mental capacity to handle situations.

It can be hard sometimes to not let past experiences affect us now in the present, especially ones that were traumatic. They leave imprints in our heart and mind and can be triggered causing them to rear their head and affect our present day actions. This is especially true in relationships, when we have had unhealthy, toxic relationships in the past, we can be easily triggered.

There is a saying that goes, "don't bleed on others that did not cut you". How true is that statement and how difficult that can be. It is important to remember that in current relationships and situations, we are not in the same place we were before where there was hurt, abuse, mistrust, neglect or disregard, we are in the present, the secure, the supportive, the assured, the considerate, and the comfort. Now, this does not work if we are in yet another position or relationship that brings some of those same emotions to the table, we must be in a better place.

Getting in a better place, it is not up to someone else to get you there, granted having someone supportive can help you get there, it is up to you to get there. If there is someone in our lives, a friend or partner to help support you while healing, keep in mind, they do not deserve the lashing out from triggers brought on by others. The past is up to us to let it go and heal from it, in order to not let it be a part of the present.

Often times when our present gets altered by the past, it is associated with guilt for our choices we made. When there is guilt for past mistakes or choices, it sits a huge rock on our ambition and crushes it, keeping us from being able to make sound choices going forward due to fear. Guilt of the past makes it hard to make proper decisions in the present because we are afraid of making a mistake or choosing wrong again.

There will always be fear when it comes to moving forward, with anything, especially when we hold onto the past. It is a little creature in the ear reminding you of awful things since passed and cause doubt in the present. There will be many times in the present that the past plays a big role but it is up to us on what role it has, a leading role or a place in the audience.

The past will always be there, there is no erasing it, blocking it out or forgetting it, but there is being aware, alert, conscious and present to help us with any situation. It is not always easy being in the present, some days it will be so easy and other days we feel haunted. But, it's important for us to remember that we are not that same person we were before, we have since evolved, grown and changed. The weight of the past doesn't have to hold any standing in the present because we know things now that we didn't then.

I know from personal experience that the ghost of the past, they haunt your dreams, they pop up when something reminds you of the past, but they aren't allowed to stay, unless we invite them to. It is up to us to cleanse the home (our mind and hearts) of the past, burn some sage (metaphorically) and rid them of your presence.

We are stronger than we were before and have learned much from our past. It doesn't have to be a part of today, yes, it helped us grow and evolve, and we can be grateful for that, but also accept that it has played its part in our journey and learn to let it go. I wish you all the best in your present day and all the strength to let go of attachments to these ghost, with all my love and light.